That’s LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form…

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s life.

Love, even in all its color and splendor can still cast a storm in our lives and sometimes cause great emotional destruction. Let us always remember that there is no love without pain. There is no reward without sacrifice. Sometimes, there just can never be a graceful exit. We just have to let love take its course and hurt those who have been caught in it and leave us with the cold hard fact that there will never be an easy way to break someone’s heart.

We may not be aware of it but sometimes, our actions reminds us all of love’s long lost meaning. If someone falls and hurts us a hundred times then our love for that person, if it is true and sincere, will give us the strength to bear the pain, the patience to forgive, and the faith to give that person another chance. No matter how painful it is. The person who hurt you would have always looked forward to opportunities for reconciliation because you loved that person.

Listen to your heart, as what I’ve always said to my friends. People may think you’re crazy but sometimes, that is just the way love is. If your heart tells you to give the person who hurt you, another chance, then give that person another chance. If it gives up, then you just have to stop. But one thing, your love can endure even a hundred blow and still, never gives up but you cannot live the rest of your life waiting for that someone who doesn’t love you anymore and you might have already lost long ago.
There is nothing wrong in being good to that person but you also have to be good to yourself. There is nothing wrong in loving unselfishly, but you also have to learn to love yourself. And if that is the case, since we can’t do anything about it anymore, then we have to set the person we love, free. If that person comes back one day, sorry for what he/she has done, and asking for an nth chance, and you still feel the same, then you have the best reason to start all over again. But now, and until the time comes, you have to stop, make a decision, and move on without looking back to what could have been.

As what they always say, not all relationships are made in heaven. There are those that were made out of urgency to have and not to give. There are those that were made out of lust and not love. There are those that thrive on desires to suit selfish needs and not those for others.You may have lost someone precious to you but that doesn’t mean you cannot be happy again. As it has been said, it may storm for days to nights on end but it will not storm forever. Remember, our lives may seem to live in endless chaos but there will always be a way to surpass it. Pain may linger longer than we wished, but God will always help us find a way to endure it.

Like every other person on the planet, I was locked in that mindset and thought I could only be in love with a “special someone” who made me feel all this and more. But, as I mature, I realized there was more to that “feeling” than what everybody thought.

Being in love can be flexible. It doesn’t have to be exclusively romantic. Love can come in all forms, even those we can’t begin to understand. It’s not just about happily ever-afters and fireworks. The pain, the rejection, despair and disappointments are very much a part of it. They actually make being in love so real and special.

Some of us might have spent lifetimes tilting at windmills and chasing rainbows, searching for the greatest romance ever known to people, when it seemingly little things around us that evoke that special feeling. maybe there won’t be butterflies, or tingles or that kilig feeling all the time, but you know from the soul, flesh and core of your being that it is something inexplicably wonderful and extraordinary and you feel incredibly glad that you are alive.

Many years of my life have passed, but it is only now that I have the courage to admit to myself how truly “in love” I am and always have been. I am in love with my family, though I may not be expressive at times. I am in love with my friends- old, new, lost or forgotten. I am in love with my special someone out there whether s/he is a part of my past or the once-in-a-lifetime yet to come.

I am in love with the faces I see everyday, with the smiles that prove that life is worth living. I am in love with sadness, grief, loneliness, anger – all those emotions that make life’s joys even more precious. I am in love with Him who has graced me with the gift of love and loving, and who shares His blessings with all that exists in this world. And I am in love with myself, with my own unique ability to express love in infinite ways despite my imperfections and limitations.

I am in love with love, with life, with living.

This is my greatest testimonial to being in love. No matter how many times I may deny or ignore it, being in love will always be the grandest experience that life can give to me and to everyone else.

At the risk of inciting philosophy teachers to war, I believe Descartes was wrong. I am not because I think. I am because I love.

And I can be even more, because I am loved in return.

Nevertheless, it is important that we not revel in our jealousy for too long, feeding it with inner talk or gossip with others. If we do, we run the risk of losing ourselves to its negative power. Jealousy has something good to offer us, though, and that is information about our own heart’s desire. When we are jealous of certain people, we want what they have, and if we are to be conscious, we must acknowledge that. In this way, we discover what we want for ourselves, which is the first step to getting it. It may be a certain kind of relationship or a career. Whatever it is, it is possible that we could create it for ourselves, in our own lives, if we are able to honor our own desires.

Of course, there are times when we cannot heal our jealousy in this way, and then the lesson may be about acceptance and the understanding that our path is different from the paths of those around us. It may be hard to see now, but perhaps it will eventually be clear why our life has taken its particular path. In the end, the best cure for jealousy is the recognition that the life we have is full of its own meaning and beauty, utterly unique to us—a gift that could never be found in the life of another.

Not all the love affairs were meant to have happy endings. A fair amount usually end in the altar, with many children and a happy home. Some don’t. Some romances just doesn’t work out because of a multitude of reasons: one half of the couple has found somebody else, somebody will be based in another part of the world, one set of parents cannot allow it to go on, race or age differences… whatever reason, calling the end of the couplehood is painful to the two parties involved.

What will perhaps compound the tragedy even more is when neither one of the two wants it to end but realize that there is no other way but to say goodbye. When two people are in love, they usually don’t see any end in sight. Everyday is happy day- perhaps how heaven must feel like. Being in love makes you feel like you can do anything, like you can walk on water, like nothing will ever get you down. If he loves you back, the happy feeling multiplies a million times in your heart. You just can’t stop smiling. And so go the days, weeks, and months of being deliriously in love.

But not all love affairs were made in heaven. Some are beset with problems early on while some blossom in the worst possible time. Somehow, falling in love amid all this actually blocks your mind from all negative thought. You have to choices: either you feel like you can conquer everything or you feel like you should enjoy the moment. Bahala na si Batman. Being in love enables you to lose all sense of reason for a while.

But the “while” ends, after a while. Reason will start to function when one of you suddenly finds yourself with breathing room. Somebody may have a problem at work or at home that he cannot give you the 100 percent attention you had been used to. Reason starts to creep into your brain and you start believing that you have to end the affair now before it’s too late.

But how do you do it? How do you walk away from something that filled your every being with intense joy and made your life a breeze? How do you walk away from the person who has no idea that you are about to? How do you walk away when you are still in love with him?

First, you must absolutely and without question believe that it cannot work as well as the reason why it cannot. You have thought it out a million times over and you came to the conclusion that there’s no other way but to end it. Perhaps one way than you can tell that it is time to, when you have no peace within yourself anymore. The happy feeling does not cover the cracks that are breaking through the hastily built and therefore weak foundation of the relationship. Although love manifest, it is not enough. Love cannot right the wrong.

Second, you must give yourself time away from him to really come to your senses. If you need to, write everything down, point by point on the off chance that you might throw all these away when he holds you and begs you to stay. At this point, you do not entertain “off-chances” anymore because your mind should already made up. You know that you will walk away.

Third, you think about the approach you will take and I, being an outsider, cannot be the architect of this strategy. You are the best person to tell if the best way is to write him a letter or talk to him in person. Be decent enough not to do it through text or through e-mail or through fax. If you truly are in love with him, you should not run away from this eventuality but face it head on. Somehow, he deserves gentleness and honesty.

Accept that this will be hard for the two of you because of the feeling involved. You have a history of the good times. It becomes even harder when he has been good to you and doesn’t expect this from you at all. Accept that he will get very hurt, sad, feel abandoned and depressed- you cannot delude yourself and say that he will easily move on the way you are planning to. He might try all sorts of tactics to make you change your mind. He try begging, pleading, and crying. He will promise that he will solve the problem, change his religion, quit his job, or forget about his parents just so you can be together. He will say that you are the only one in his life who brings him joy. He will call you The Gift.

While he is doing this, you will feel your insides shatter into a million pieces. Your heart is breaking because you know you are breaking his heart… you want to say “No, forget what I said. I will not leave you..” You know that you will give anything and everything to shield him from the pain because even you are feeling it. You struggle. You cry. You say “sorry”, as if that little word is enough to make his pain go away. You realize later it won’t.

When he finally leaves with head down and his eyes glued to the ground, you will not feel the triumphant. In your mind, you think about what those other people said. How did it go? Mas mabuting mang-iwan kaysa maiwanan. You give a little smile because you wish it were true in your case. You feel like you just said goodbye to the one thing that made everything else pale in comparison.

The good thing about this type of break-up (when you are saying goodbye because of external circumstances) is you don’t regret anything, falling in love with him and sharing your life with him. Although you used to regret the timing of the love affair, you now thank God for allowing you to meet him. You become a better person as a result of this relationship and you know that that’s what love is all about.

A friend once told me that “if you love somebody, set him free. If he comes back to you…” Immediately after breaking up with somebody, you will find it difficult to pin your hopes on the cliche. Instead of doing you any good, it will be like a morphine that will numb the pain but will not help you recover. It will only drag you back into Square One when you are already on Square Three.

And you then you think, what’s next? After you give up this man, are you still going to meet somebody else? The answer, which I believe in my heart to be true, is a resounding yes. Yes, you will find somebody else as unexpectedly as you met this man. Life is bound to get better. Right now, though, life is pretty difficult to deal with. Your world shrinks to just you, your desk at work, and your bed. In a group, you find yourself not really listening to what others are saying but trying hard not to break down. You put your game face but your eyes are the saddest they have been in a long time. You smile, you laugh, and you talk back to those who talks to you but you’re not really 100 percent with them yet. Accept that this will happen and you will feel this way. You need to grieve. Give yourself time, too.

In the meantime, meet your deadlines and live your life. Write this article and move on…

Smile…

Don’t we all wish something “so good” could be forever? Don’t we all hope that happiness is there to stay?

One person said, never ever let your heart run your life, as much as you can, always be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Try to listen not merely on what your feelings is invoking on you as a person but more important is listen to reason as well.

Letting go of someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from all animosity, revulsion, and resentment that was long kept in your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope, making our lives more miserable
than ever. Worst, presenting yourself as the “most affected one” sets the nastiest impression of all time–whatta a loser!

The trick there is…always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

If you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love…right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven! Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (growl even) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easy said than done I know!).

We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don’t have to forget someone you love (’cause it’s hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think it’s better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmmm…”Who could it be” is the next interesting question to ponder.

Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

yet, you can’t find the right words to express it…

so many emotions you’d like to show,

yet, you’re too afraid to let it flow…

afraid to take a chance.

frightened to take the risk…

feeling, thinking that it’s alright to be alone

and embrace one’s self

than to cause pain and get hurt in the end.

Hurting, being scared, feeling alone, and crying are part of the learning process; understanding our feelings makes life challenging and rewarding. Going through difficult times makes you who you are.

You have taken one of the most significant steps you will ever have to.

Enter each new day telling yourself that you deserve to smile.

Enter each new day believing that you can make someone else smile inside, because you are a beautiful person.

Things happen in our lives that we find hard to accept. Thoughts come back to trouble us time and time again.

When something happens in our lives that we find it difficult to accept, we must decide if there is anything we can do to change things. If there is, we must do what we can to make things right again. But if we done all we can, and we know in our hearts that there is nothing more we can do about it now, then we should let go of whatever is troubling us.

After going over all the “what ifs” and “whys”, we may learn a valuable lesson. And we find that even though it was painful, we grew through the experience.

Just learning to let things go, rather than worrying about what might have been, might eventually be worth even more than whatever it is we had to let go of…

Be happy; your whole life is ahead of you. It is your life, your chance to be who and what you want to be…

Parang sa buhay ng tao…
may mga pagkakataong sunod-sunod ang dating ng mga pagsubok na halos di na malaman ng tao kung saan pa susuot. Ika nga nila, “when it rain, it pours.” At talaga namang nakapanghihina ng loob ang mga ganoong sitwasyon. Kung baga sa panahon, pabugso-bugso. May mga pagkakataong pa ngang bumabaha ng luha. May mga pagkakataong halos tayo ay bumigay na. Lahat ng paraan gagawin huwag lang ikaw ay sumuko. Kahit na nga di natin alam kung kailan ba talaga ito matatapos. At kadalasan nga matinding tibay ng loob at lakas ng pananampalataya sa Nakatataas ang tangi nating pinanghahawakan. Pasasaan ba’t malalampasan din natin ang hagupit ng mga unos na ‘to. At pag dumating ang panahong yon, ang sad face mo ay magiging smiley face na, dahil ang araw ay muling magpapasikat sa ating buhay- with flying colors pa ng bahaghari- dala-dala ang bagong pag-asang- bukas, isang kaaya-aya at masayang kabanata ng ating buhay ang magsisimula…

Just as life itself, it is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body. Love is more than the sum of interests and attractions and commonalities that the two people share. And just as life itself, it goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully, at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full flower and you take hold of it, celebrate in all expressible experience beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take take hold of you, celebrate with you for a brief moment, then move it on.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall in love or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift as what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there were no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that made the person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that some small things were different, then the love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and they say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. Then, try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But, there is no meaning beyond love itself and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they’ll live in the sea of mystery.

You need to know this about love and accept to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is noting wrong with you. Love just don’t chooses to root in other person’s heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him, feel honored that love came and called out at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with and all your heart’s feeling the same pains and joys even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another and he falls in love with you, then love chooses to leave, do not reclaim it, or to assess… blame. LET IT GO!

There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know on time. Remember that you don’t choose love, love chooses you. All you can really do is to accept it for all its mystery when it comes to your life. Feel the love it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem poor in spirit. Give it back to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long, without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need, they cease to be someone who generates love instead, became someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from you heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always will be a mystery. Be glad it came to live for a moment in your life.

If you keep your heart open, it will come again…

… para sa mga taong nanliligaw,nagbabalak manligaw, nag-hihintay
maligawan at nagbabalak lumagay sa magulo pero walang kasing-sayang mundo ng pag-ibig…

.. ang love ay hindi minamadali.. hindi pinipilit.. at lalong hindi
kina-career. .(aray!)

unang-una..

PAANO MO BA NASABING MAHAL MO NA SYA???

dahil ba natutuwa ka sa knya??? o kaya naman naaliw ka?? naswi-
sweetan ka ba ng sobra sa kanya?? Kinikilig ka ba pag nakikita mo sya?
at naha-high kapag naririnig mo na ang boses nya??

eh, teka muna… baka naman infatuated ka lang?? o kaya naman kagaya
nga ng sagot mo BAKA naaaliw ka lang dahil kakaiba sya.. may spark na
hindi mo maintindihan…?

Tsk Tsk Tsk !!

ang saklap nyan!!..

pangalawa..

GAANO MO BA SYA KAKILALA??

madali ba syang mapikon??? pano ba sya mabadtrip??? madali bang
mahalata na may topak sya?? ano bang suot nya pag nasa bahay sya??
shorts ba or pantalon?? nakasando ba sya o nka tshirt lng?? matagal
ba sya maligo?? kumakain ba sya ng gulay?? tamad ba sya?? mas gusto
ba nyang manood ng tv kaysa magbasa ng books? nagpe-play station ba
sya? tatlo ba ang pamangkin nyang lalaki? makukulit ba ang mga kamag-
anak nya? green ba ang kulay ng gate ng bahay nila? sa village ba
sya nakatira? may sakayan ba ng jeep na malapit sa knila? nagsisimba
ba sya every week?? kasama ba yung pamilya nya?? at nagdadasal ba
sya bago matulog??

in short…

alam mo na nga ba?? ang mga bagay-bagay… ang mga simpleng bagay
tungkol sa kanya? na nagde-determine ng sarili nya. as in kung sino ba
talaga sya..?

pangatlo..

KAYA MO BA SYANG TANGGAPIN??

as in TANGGAPIN ng buong-buo..

sa lahat ng trip nya sa buhay. sa lahat ng katopakan nya. sa lahat ng
pag-i-inarte at pagda-drama niya sa lahat ng kasalanang nagawa, ginawa
at gagawin palang nya.. sa lahat ng naiisip nya. sa lahat ng sasabihin nya,
sa kilos nya.. sa pananamit nya, sa pagsasalita, sa pananaw nya sa
buhay, sa pagtrato nya sa tao, sa lifestyle nya, sa uri ng pamilyang
meron sya, sa uri ng kaibigang kasa-kasama nya, sa style nya
pagdating sa love, sa ka-sweetan nyang natural, sa paglalambing nya,
sa tawa nyang pagkalakas-lakas, sa manners nya, sa bisyo nya kung
meron man, sa mga pang-aasar nya sa’yo, sa style nya pagdating sa
pagso-solve ng problema, sa problemang maari ka ring kasama..

pang-apat..

KAYA MO BANG MAGING TOTOO??

kaya mo bang makita yung sarili mo na kasama pa rin sya, ha?? sa isang
sitwasyong pag na-isip mo eh mapapaiyak ka na lang sa sakit ng
dahil din sa kanya?? kaya mo bang magmukhang tanga, as in umiyak ng
dahil sa kababawan, ibuhos ang mga nararamdaman mo, kahit na puro
kababawan nga lang naman, as in kahit sa harapan nya??

kaya mo bang maging barubal pagkasama mo sya?? ung tipong walang
pakialam mawala man ang manners mo, na wala ka naman talaga..

in short…

KAYA MO BANG MAGING IKAW KAPAG KASAMA MO NA SYA???

yung tipong hindi ka nahihiyang ipakita kung sino ka talaga..

dahil alam mong…

HINDI MO LANG SIYA TANGGAP…

TANGGAP KA RIN NYA NG “BUONG-BUO”

YO, PEEPS, tama na kasi ang trip, tama na ang pagmamadali, oo masarap
ngang ma-in love sa isang tao pero diba mas masarap; LALO NA KUNG ALAM
MONG TOTOO YUNG NARARAMDAMAN MO?

kaya dapat hindi tayo nagpapabulag sa akala nating LOVE, mag-antay na
lang tayo. Wag natin unahan. For all we know, hindi pa pala sya ang para
sa atin… still……, pag nasagot mo lahat ng tanong sa itaas,
baka nga mahal mo na sya…